Elorm, I am so sorry for your loss...Unfortunately, there is no exact formula in how to deal with such a tragic, unexpected loss. We can never be mentally prepared for something like this to happen so suddenly. Even though I don't understand how it is to lose a parent, I do know how it is to lose someone so suddenly without warning. One thing that you can rest in is the fact that your father knew the Lord. Although that might sound cliche'ish, but it is true that now He is with the Father. You must take this time and grieve and not feel bad about doing so. He was your father and you love him. It doesn't matter what negative things that you two may have gotten into recently, what matters is that you love him and that he loves you. Notice that I didn't say loved...He still loves you. One scripture that I like to look at when I am really down is Philippians 4:8 which says, "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virture, and if there be any praise, think on these things." Think on everything positive about you and your dad's relationship and find peace in those things. You are very strong, Elorm, and you must believe that. Don't lose hope. If you need to call me, just to talk, yell, scream, or just to sit there, I am going to send you my #. I will be praying for you and your family. Love ya - Ms. Nelson

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